Sex after baby?

I'm four months post-partum and my husband and I have been back in the saddle since I got the okay. But insertion hurts! We've used coconut oil as lube for years, but I'm wondering if maybe it's too thin? I had a pretty gnarly second-degree tear, but I feel pretty well-healed in general. I love our sex life, but it's hard to get super worked up when the first ten minutes hurt! Any recommendations?

Height to size ratio?

Okay so I'm 6'3" 215 pounds and fairly muscular with size 13 feet. However I'm only 5.3 inches long. My recent girlfriend had asked and made me feel very inadequate with my size.

5.3 isn't that small I know but i feel like the fact I'm as large as I am makes it seem smaller could there be truth in that?

What is Asexuality?

I've always had a low "drive" and I had sex for the first time a few days ago. It was not pleasurable I wasn't even really aroused, I wasn't fully erect. It felt more like a burden and I just felt so wrong afterwards.

I've been wondering for a few years now if I might be asexual, Before I even had a girlfriend. Having this happens just makes it feel like a much more real possibility though. Are there any Asexuals out there? How do I know if I am one?

No matter how long, I can't climax from a blowjob

As the title says, I have a lot of trouble climaxing from a blowjob. I've always wanted to, but it never happens. I can easily climax from intercourse and masturbation, but never from a blowjob.

I'm totally into it, it feels amazing, but I can never get to that point.

I've tried asking my girlfriend to try different things and they seem work, but I never make it to the end. I've gone for 10 mins, 20 mins, even a half hour and by then it's just raw.

I'm not sure if it's the way she's doing it, or if it's something on my end.

Flaccid size vs. Erect size

So this has been on my mind for some time and I can't comprehend it. When I'm taking a shower after sports I'm clearly the smallest of the group, my penis as well as my scrotum are smaller flaccid. I was curious so I measured my penis when erect now it should be at the top side of average or even a bit above, what's the deal with this? Are the published averages a bit too low because of measurement techniques? (I measured with a measuring tape) Or is there no correlation between flaccid size and erect size (strange because even my scrotum looks smaller flaccid).

How to deal with it when you are getting older?

Alright, I admit I'm a 57 year old married male, and probably not your target audience, but I do have a couple of observations. First, nobody warns you about the changes that will erupt in your sex life (hell, your physical life) about age 50. I know we've always heard how older men may have problems with erections, need viagra or have blood pressure issues that interfere... but that's always OLDER guys, so no worries, we've got plenty of time, right.


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